I was looking on the Internet and I found a page that said "30 Reasons Not to Get Married before you're 30" I have literally been told every single one of the reasons at some point. So I"m going to share them with you and justify myself for the last time.
1. Because you have one life to live, give yourself time to grow, if not fully at least mature to the place you need be...... it won't be perfect but at least you'll have few regrets.
Yes, I only have one life, and tomorrow is not promised. I want every second I have Mark. Forever isn't long enough for me, why wait? Oh, and is anyone EVER fully mature??
2. Marriage is not for trial and error, it is just as important as any major surgery. You must be in the know as well as plan and prepare yourself mentally, financially, etc.
Divorce is not an option for us. When we take that vow in front of God, it's forever. And yes I'm "prepared" for that.
3. In this day and age, not too many people in their 20's are equipped to start a family. Are you somewhat secure in who you are as a man or woman, are you ready to totally commit to one person?
The last part is marked out because it is TOTALLY irrelevant! lol. But Mark and I have committed ourselves to each and ONLY each other for the last 4 & 1/2 years. I want no one but him. And from what he tells me he feels the same. I trust that man with my life, and I know he would never hurt me.
4. Do you have a stable job, are your finances secure enough to go beyond your needs? Do you have a savings you are capable of living on?
Mark has a stable job that can support us if I get at least a part time job. If my plans go..well as planned I won't need much schooling to have a pretty successful career.
5. Unless you just happen to be fortunate, the odds of finding someone that is mature and committed is hard, especially if you live in a big city. Everyone wants to have a "good time" for as long as they can.
Mark and I are both mature and committed. And as for a "good time".. why can't we have a good time together??
6. People who are usually below 30 consider themselves young, beautiful and a good catch. You don't need to deal with that kind of mentality for they will find it hard to commit due to the fact that they are so "desirable" and "Gods gift to the universe". In some cases they may feel that you are deserving of them and wonder into wonderland to try marriage. I can bet that in less than 2 months they will be back on their high horse in wanting to be loved by the world.
Well, Mark is definitely "desirable" to me! I don't really have anything else to say to that one..
7. Before turning 30, living life in your 20's allows you to know you. Your likes, dislikes, desires, passions, everything that makes you the mature man or woman you desire to be. So that when you do enter a relationship, you enter one that allows you to be true to you as well as your partner, making your relationship less stressful and life more relaxing.
I don't want to "live life" without Mark. I know my likes, dislikes, blah blah blah. And if those change, we love each other enough to adjust.
8. You have more than enough time after graduating to settle in your career.
Some of 8 got deleted because it didn't apply. Luck for us Mark is settled and can provide while I get through college. We both know that if we had graduated at the same time, we would be waiting to get married.
9. Only a select few (in their 20's) know what they want in a marriage and actually practice and live it when they get married.
Anyone who knows me knows that I always know exactly what I want. And not to mention God sent this neat little handbook down called the Bible to guide us along the way:)
10. Is anyone thinking about only being with one person when there is so much to do, so many people to meet and have a great time with. Yes you can be married and do this as well, but there is that thing called jealousy, or maybe control or insecurity. Where your better half thinks you're having way too much fun and may immaturely go seeking fun elsewhere. It's something when you can love and allow one to be free, be themselves as well as be in your life! (btw you dont have to be from another planet to do this!) when you LoVe and you're LoVed there is a freeness that comes with it, not threatened that NO one, or anything will come between your relationship. Yes jealousy may surface every now and again, but this jealousy is healthy.
I'm not interested in dating around. I was so lucky to find the "one" the first try. Why fix something that ain't broke??
11. There aren't too many people that marry before thirty who can have a relationship that involves, respect, trust, loyalty, unconditional love through an open relationship. What would you know about that? Then again there are exceptions to the rule!
This one kills me. I don't have any of those qualities because I'm under 30? Wrong. I've done it since I was 14, what would change now?
12. You'll be at an age where you are ready, able and willing to bring children into this world. Having the energy and wisdom to educate as well as raise them, if need be by yourself!
Who says you have to have children as soon as you get married? Mark and I will be waiting 8-10 years before we bring sweet little babies into this world. Unless of course God has a different plan, and who can argue with that Guy?
13. You would have had more than enough time to date, as well as know what you indeed need in your relationship. You may have even made mistakes, but if you are fortunate the individual you made the mistake with, may be the one you'll end up marrying.
So you should fall in love and then break up to make sure you make some mistakes...does this make sense to anyone else?
14. Gives you time to travel, do all that you desire to do, whether by yourself or with friends. You get to let your hair down in ways that you wouldn't if you are married. Not to say you can't do all of the same things when you get married, but every one's schedule and finances doesn't always allow you to experience that which you would being single.
I hate being alone, much less traveling alone.
15. You are able to save, instead of spend, spend, spend. Whether for a home, a vehicle, investments, travel. You're not working in order to live, your reason for existing precedes a paycheck to pay bills and buy groceries. You will have money prepared and ready for whatever plans you have for your future.
Or you could die before you have all that money saved up and then what?
16. Gives you more than enough time to be reckless
Neither of us are "reckless'. I'm not even sure exactly what they are talking about here.
17. 30 means to have arrived, whether mentally physical, spirituality, financially, it differs for each individual, take advantage of your life prior to thirty to perfect one of the above areas.
Perfect. Mark will make it to 30 three years before me. He can tell me how it feels.
18. You don't want to make the same mistake twice or thrice. Who wants to be on their second much less third marriage before thirty! Failure as well as immaturity is written all over that!
Divorce isn't an option.
19. At this point there will be no need for excuses, if there is, only you will believe them! If anyone else does---you're good!
HUH?
20. If you have been amazingly dishonest prior to turning thirty, you should be quite content with who you are at this point as well as with your choices, actions and intentions. Work on improving you, if that doesn't interest you, don't continuously complain when shit doesn't work out or backfires.
Neither of us are dishonest.
21. Following the leader is not going to work when having your own to contend with, just because your friends got married out of college, doesn't mean you have to. Be a trend setter and do something that makes sense as well as has longevity. How are you going to handle what you are not ready for?
I don't know anyone else getting married this young.
22. Your better half as well as yourself will be more accepting/understanding due to maturity and experience. Finding the right person may be hard, but being able to exercise fairness, patience and understanding when you meet the right person, takes you to another level where loyalty consideration and unconditional resides. Rushing into a marriage does not confirm anything neither does it magically bond you. Time always tells a true tale and if it is meant to be.....it will be! Trust and believe this!
4 & 1/2 years isn't exactly "rushing'
23 got deleted because it was just strange.
24. Marrying to escape a situation is more or less voluntary imprisonment, just at another location.
No one is escaping anything. We both have phenomenal families. But you come to a point where you realize where you belong. I belong with him.
25. You made it this far.....your tolerance for handling stress should be a piece of cake. If not you'll be a nervous wreck for life!
What?
26. Being lonely or broke doesn't mean get hitched immediately! For those of you who fall for these types, this is one scar that will be permanent! FYI: Finding someone to be with does not get rid of loneliness, insecurity, self destruction, envy, jealousy, laziness, and Vices. Before you know it they will be blaming all of their issues on you!
We are definitely not lonely, broke maybe!
I know Mark and I will make it. We love each other to much do anything but that. So from now on I'm not defending us. We will just prove it to everyone:)
